Making out for the first time or with a new partner can be a little nerve-wracking to think about, but will most likely turn into a rewarding and enjoyable experience. For those who are new to making out there are a few simple rules to keep in mind to ensure that your first time goes smoothly.
First and foremost, it is important to keep in mind that no two partners are alike, and therefore the rules to making out are more like suggestions that can be tailored to work best with each new partner you may meet. Start slow! Take it easy at first. If things go well, you will have plenty of time in the future to dive right in there. The first time you and your partner make out you will want to take some time to get to know how the two of you work together. Starting slow is never a problem, you or your partner can always pick up the intensity later, but starting off too aggressively can often be a turn-off.
Now that that has been covered, the technical aspects can be examined. Approaching your partner, you will want to tilt your head slightly to the side, the opposite direction of your partner. Once again, this is nothing to be concerned with. Very rarely will your faces collide unsuccessfully, and if they do, give it a laugh and resume the task at hand. Once kissing, you will most likely want to start with a slightly-opened mouth position. No puckers; they won’t get you anywhere. A good starting mouth position consists of you closing your lips on one of your partner’s lips, either the top or bottom, you choose.
Remember at this point you are kissing their lips. The kissing of your partner’s lips is the basic maneuver that making out is based on, and can work well on its own if you and your partner would like to take things slow. Once you are comfortable with the situation and feel that your partner is as well, you can begin to incorporate your tongue. The first thing you will want to try is moving the tip of your tongue across your partner’s lips as you are still doing the basic slightly-opened mouth kiss. While you are still kissing each other’s lips you can also try to lightly bite your partners bottom lip. Using your teeth to do this is often seen as aggressive, and so you may want to start by covering your teeth with your lips and give your partner’s lip a little tug.
After some or all of these suggestions have been incorporated, and you and your partner are comfortable, you can start thinking about moving your tongue into your partner’s mouth. You will want to start small by slightly moving your tongue into your partner’s mouth in between kisses. If your partner accepts this they will most likely respond in kind. A general rule of thumb is that too much tongue is a bad thing and is often how inexperienced teenagers are depicted making out in movies and television. If you are making out with your tongue, do so with purpose. Don’t just flop it around in your partners mouth. You will usually want to be interacting with your partners tongue.
At this point there is not much else to add; you are making out! One other thing that should be mentioned is to be mindful of your hands. Early on you will probably just want to hold your partner, moving your hands’ positions occasionally. The one thing you do not want to do while making out is forget about the rest of your body. Enjoy yourself and your partner, relax, and have a good time!